Ladies, You Are All Awesome

God loves each of us as if there was only one of us.St. Augustine

How often do we get caught up in comparing ourselves with someone else? We discount our own gifting’s or abilities because someone else has the same gifting’s and abilities…and, in our opinion, they do it better. But, here’s the thing I’m learning:

Our opinion about our awesomeness has nothing to do with how awesome we really are.

Sure, we need to have confidence in ourselves. But, this confidence, if based solely upon what we can do within our own strength, will only get us so far. We will eventually feel depleted and worn out from trying to convince ourselves and everyone else just how talented we are. Sounds pretty exhausting to me.

The question that God has been gently asking me lately puts things in a new perspective. He says, “Do you believe that I would uniquely make you just to watch you fight for your place in the world?”  

He made each of us uniquely yet we compete and strive for center stage because we are so worried that someone else is going to out-do us. We strive to perform perfectly so that someone else doesn’t have a chance to one-up us. Or we try to outshine the rest because we only feel accepted if we get the public acclaim and applause.

The problem with this situation lies in the answer to God’s provocative question. Many of us, not being confident in who God made us to be, would say, “Yes, God, I believe you want me to work for my position.”

That’s what I said when He first prompted me for an answer. Was God stunned at my response? Definitely not. He already knew the fragile condition of my heart. I, on the other hand, was shocked by my admission.

I assure you, He wanted me to be aware of my self-dependency so He could point me back to the truth of His all-sufficiency.

However, we don’t have to prove ourselves to anyone. God made us unique which means we are matchless. We are distinct in our calling, our makeup, our strengths, and yes, even our weaknesses.

St. Augustine said, “God loves each of us as if there was only one of us.” So, why are we constantly trying to prove to everyone just how lovable we are? Our value can’t be overestimated. Our worth can’t be bottled and sold to the highest bidder. God already paid for us with His unrelenting love and yet we try to convince ourselves and everyone else of our importance.

I think its high time we ladies got a glimpse of just how amazingly loved we are. We shouldn’t be downgrading our own value because of someone else’s value. We are all equally valuable but are all uniquely made. God doesn’t love us all the same because He made us all different. He does, however, love us all completely.

When we really understand this truth, we start walking in a new level of freedom in our relationships with God and others. We don’t have to try to be better than her (who pops in your mind?) because she was created for something that you could never do. (And vice-versa.)

We GET to embrace our uniqueness with confidence because we know that He never, ever compares us to each other. He affectionately looks at each of us individually and sees a beautiful woman made in His image. (Genesis 1:27)  There’s no upstaging that!

Write Your Heart Out (Week 2)

Everyday Gyaan
January 28 Prompt: 
  1. The worst enemy to my creativity is…


I have a hard time expressing my creativity when I’m distracted by my own insecurities. How do I get distracted by my deeply embedded insecurities?


Don’t judge me cause I know you do it too. It’s not that I’m not confident in the gifts God has given me. I know what I’m good at and what needs fine-tuning. I am great at being grammatically correct. I do well at metaphorical writing.

The issue? I suck at writing about topics that I’m not interested in. The topics like, “How to Find the Perfect Hairstyle for Your Personality Type” or “10 Ways You Can Get His Attention Tonight.”

I CAN’T DO IT! <insert a stressed out emoji face here>

And this is the stink of it: A lot of times you have to write stuff you have no interest in just to be published.

I feel like that’s selling out and I’m having a hard time with it. I wouldn’t be me if I didn’t allow my authentic brand of creative expression to naturally flow. Right? Am I wrong here?

Cause when I submit an article to a magazine and get rejected after investing multiple hours of focus and heart into it, well, I get insecure. What are they looking for? So I read the other articles in the magazine to see if my personal work is really publish-worthy. And the thing is, I read stuff and think, “I can so do that!”

But the question is, “Do I really want to? Do I want to tailor my style to fit someone else’s mold just so I can say that I’ve been published?”

No. I just don’t think I can do it.

Ah, such is the balancing act between authenticity and popularity.  So, for now, let’s just say I’m good with sticking to my guns and not altering my artistic voice for anyone else. Not yet, anyways.

Those darn cliché article titles, though. Like a moth to a flame, they pull me in every time.



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Write Your Heart Out (Week 1)

Everyday Gyaan
February 7 Prompt:
  1. Your thoughts on this quote:  The reward for conformity was that everyone liked you except yourself. ~Rita Mae Brown


Being liked isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There is always more to lose than there is to gain in the popularity game. Isn’t there?

Conformity. Such an evil word (in my opinion) yet so many get caught up in the flashiness of it all. Insert movie clip from “Mean Girls”.

So much beauty is lost when we trade in our original self for a copy of someone else’s masked self. The irony behind our compliance to the standard of “norm” is pinpointed with perfect finality in Rita Mae Brown’s words. Our reward for being the same as everyone else is found in simply being admired by them and therefore neglected by ourselves.

In essence, we get what we think we want but when we get it, we are still left wanting more. That’s the sad part. The one who has the most to gain by accepting herself actually has the most to lose by relying on others to accept her. Such a vicious cycle that can literally be seen from Hollywood to the unholy halls of our local high schools.

Why risk it? Not to sound big-headed or anything, but I am way too important to sacrifice the real me for a walk in Miss Popularity’s shoes. She only lets me see what I want to see anyways. Or maybe I only see what I want to see. Either way, it’s a lie.

Conformity. It makes us a half version of ourselves. And I’d rather be completely me. I’d rather be satisfied in knowing who I am and who I am not. I’d rather let my individuality shine instead of look like everyone else and hate myself for it.

I am a giant within my own brave skin. I will fight the urge to be you with every ounce of big-hearted courage that I have inside of me. I will not conform. For MY OWN sake.